In this episode, we explore how we ourselves can change, to meet the changing needs of a changing world… People change. Sometimes it’s the everyday small-changes that add up over time - such as the slow process of ageing that I know so well, and the small careless choices that, in my case, lead to the phrase “See you round” being, uh, a lot more literal than I would like…
Changing who you are is a dramatic experience: one needs to abandon the "previous you" and fully embrace the "new me" (and I intentionally used the terms you and me as different labels). It is a leap of faith, a jump in the unknown as the two entities, presuming significant differences, have different realities and languages. It is like earthlings taking a one-way ticket to emigrate to Mars. It is like a divorce from "previous you" with simultaneous marriage with "new me" with no dating or extramarital sandboxed hanky-panky. And many of us know divorce by now :) :(. Hence the decade I invested in writing that book and sharing my views on identity and authenticity and the cost of ignoring them.
"my views on identity and authenticity" - yes, exactly. I'd describe this process as a reframe of identity whilst still carrying through the same needs for authenticity.
Excellent article Tom, in the words of the NIKE brand " Just do It" comes to mind. With your experience in a myriad of posts during your life there will always be a willing audience for your invaluable insights and storytelling.
Self-doubt is a boon to many, but if you look back to what has brought you the most joy in your life, that would be a good place to begin anew, with the rest consigned to the trash can of life after removing the learnings from these uncomfortable situations.
Many thanks for this, Robert, -much appreciated, and yes, definitely relevant advice on this. The only catch is that I don't really know what joy actually is, nor love, for that matter: they're not experiences that have really ever been part of my life, So it can be a bit tricky for me to make sense of them such as to write about them meaningfully enough for others - but I do the best I can on that, I hope?
Another good one, Tom. Thank you. [Can you get on a call Friday AM AUS time? I have a question for you...]
"a call Friday AM Aus time" - that'd be great! I'm in Sydney/Melbourne time-zone - ping me an email or Twitter DM and we'll take it from there.
Changing who you are is a dramatic experience: one needs to abandon the "previous you" and fully embrace the "new me" (and I intentionally used the terms you and me as different labels). It is a leap of faith, a jump in the unknown as the two entities, presuming significant differences, have different realities and languages. It is like earthlings taking a one-way ticket to emigrate to Mars. It is like a divorce from "previous you" with simultaneous marriage with "new me" with no dating or extramarital sandboxed hanky-panky. And many of us know divorce by now :) :(. Hence the decade I invested in writing that book and sharing my views on identity and authenticity and the cost of ignoring them.
So true, Bogdan - scary scary scary... :-o
"my views on identity and authenticity" - yes, exactly. I'd describe this process as a reframe of identity whilst still carrying through the same needs for authenticity.
Excellent article Tom, in the words of the NIKE brand " Just do It" comes to mind. With your experience in a myriad of posts during your life there will always be a willing audience for your invaluable insights and storytelling.
Self-doubt is a boon to many, but if you look back to what has brought you the most joy in your life, that would be a good place to begin anew, with the rest consigned to the trash can of life after removing the learnings from these uncomfortable situations.
Keep writing and clarity will appear.
Many thanks for this, Robert, -much appreciated, and yes, definitely relevant advice on this. The only catch is that I don't really know what joy actually is, nor love, for that matter: they're not experiences that have really ever been part of my life, So it can be a bit tricky for me to make sense of them such as to write about them meaningfully enough for others - but I do the best I can on that, I hope?